I Won't Apologize for Not Being a Stay At Home Mom
This post is in no way bashing stay at home moms if anything I have the up most respect for you. Being a mom is a full-time job all on its own. In a sense, I envy you. I envy your strength. I envy the time you get with your kids. And as much as the thought has crossed my mind I don't think I could ever do it.
And I refuse to feel guilty about that anymore.
It may be 2016, but there is still that stigma that women should be home with the children. Women should be cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, and honestly that's a huge standard to be accounted for.
Growing up I always knew that I wanted to get married and have kids, but I knew that I wanted a career too. I never once thought that the two could conflict with each other.
It's hard to shoo away the creeping guilt in my gut whenever I am away from my child even if it's to benefit him. At school, work, internships, I feel like I am constantly missing out.
I don't want to feel that way anymore. So I'm putting my foot down. I am not sorry for being a working mom. There, I said it.
Do I wish I could see my son more? Yes of course, but I know that choosing the life I am won't only benefit him but myself too. I've always heard happy mom, happy child. Working makes me happy. Knowing that I am showing my child that he can achieve his dreams is the most amazing feeling in the world. It keeps me going when I am at my lowest points. When I'm stressed out with everything I do, I just think about that.
I also try to remind myself that my son loves me and will continue to love me whether I am a working mom or a stay at home mom, and that's all that matters.
So yes, there is going to be times where I have to sacrifice and share my son with other family members, but that doesn't make me a bad mom. That makes me a working one.