Someone asked me the other day “How do you do it?” This was in reference to being a working, divorced mom who is also going for her dreams. I chuckled as I replied, “I honestly have no idea.” See, that is the funny thing about life. There is no handbook or instruction manual explaining what to do and how to handle every situation.
There is not one book with multiple chapters titled, How to handle heartbreak. How to handle loss. How to survive divorce. How to juggle being a single working mom who has quality time with her kid and her own identity. How to handle depression. How to be successful. How to deal with death. How to pick yourself back up again after falling down. How to forgive yourself for your mistakes.
I could continue with this list but I believe my point is rather clear. Some of these have been turned into individual books. Some of these books have been successful and rather helpful for some individuals. The truth is though there is no manual to life. Even if I took time and did research to create one, it would really only be beneficial to myself because at the end of the day, I am me and you, are you. We may views things similarly or cope with some things similarly but ultimately we are different. We think and feel differently from one another to some level, as we are supposed to.
In this game called life, there is no rule book to follow explicitly. We are supposed to make mistakes so we can learn from them. We are supposed to fall down so we can pick ourselves back up. I can personally say that my journey so far has been a messy one but I wouldn’t change it. The person I am today verse the person I was even 4 years ago is much different and I am better for it. All the bumps in the roads are molding me. In certain situations, I may not understand why something is happening or how I could have been so silly, but I am grateful that I have come out of these situations and looked back at the picture and I can say I learned something from it. Which then means, it was not a waste of time and it did happen for a reason. To make me a better person.
Often times when someone asks us “How do you do it?” They see a strength in us we don’t see in ourselves. Life is hectic and hard this is true. We must, however, stop to breath in the moments of beauty around us and give ourselves a pat on the back. I believe we live in a society where it can be so easy to forget how much beauty there is around us and within us. We weren’t designed to live an ordinary life. No, we were born to live an extraordinary one.
Every one of us has greatness within us. There will be many reasons given to us on why we can’t. We only need the courage to say Yes I Can!
Look yourself in the mirror. Remind yourself you are beautiful, you are talented and you are born with greatness.